This term has achieved relevance in modern discussions of the mental health sphere of influence, even making it’s irreversible mark on upon the infamous Urban Dictionary. The term is used in conjunction with the phrase ‘kinkshaming’, or other derogatory terms. But what is Kinkphobia? How is this effect relevant, and why is it important to consider when taking into account the treatment of major, worldwide demographics? The uncertainty mounds, with little avail.
A good stepping stone is the basic, fundamental understanding of the term ‘kink within the context of kinkshaming, kinkphobia, general sexuality, and the like. The term ‘kink’ was a term coined to refer to sexual desires that deviate, or ‘kink’ from the main ‘straight’ or vanilla style of sexual or romantic interaction. Kinks come in a variety of classifications, almost enough to write a dictionary of fantasies.
Sexual deviation, however, has been the subject of harsh, and even murderous, scrutiny in historic times. The traditional attitude of equal, vanilla interaction, or male dominance, was considered a sacred practice, one that should not be violated in terms of ‘integrity’, or avoiding upset of the ‘natural order’. People who were revealed to be kinky violated this order, and so it was natural for them to be socially ousted, excommunicated, the like. However, this has changed dramatically in modern times. There is a vibrant community of kink, composed of members worldwide that help reinforce each other, providing support of all sorts. There are even conventions, entire festivals, surrounding the effort to support and educate all about the existence and legitimacy of kink.
However, every hero to their foil, every action an opposite reaction. The drastic shift into the spotlight, as seen with kink culture, causes a few to feel attacked, and uncertain in the changing world. No matter the good any sort of transition will do, there are always individuals who push back, fearing the safety of their comfortable world being compromised. Consider from their own perspective. When your safe, controlled environment is suddenly altered, out of your will or intervention, by a force unknown to you, it can easily cause one to suddenly transition into hostility, or aggression. You would fear that change, and that fear would blind you from new knowledge or certain facets of reasons, simply based upon the uncertainty.
This bounceback, this reaction, against the kink community’s rise in the modern era is known as ‘kinkphobia’. It is the fear or rejection of kink and nontraditional sexual or romantic interaction, even to illogical or malicious degrees. This fear can lead to ousting of family circles, rejection, mistrust, or otherwise, simply on the basis of how people interact sexually. Many consider this phobia to be rational thought, however it has led to the mistreatment of countless individuals, and unnecessary severing of bonds and relationships. It is a grim effect of them modern age, similar to that of homophobia, or phobia of any kind. But it is something that exists as part of any sort of transition, or culture. Growing pains are a part of life, as well as the life of a society.
Kinkphobia is not a trendy phrase to see upon any headline, forgotten the next day. It is a living, breathing problem that bogs down the acceptance and integration of natural, alternative lifestyles into the melting pot of average society. Society is a changing artwork, constantly developing and shifting to the needs of the populace. Growing pains are an inevitable part of this phenomena, but have a weakness. The major weakness to rejection? Learning, education, and kindness. Spread this, and the term kinkphobia may no longer be a prevalent problem as it has become today.