Newness : A Provocative Look at Today's Open Relationships

So I was watching Newness on Netflix, which is an
interesting and provocative taken on open relationships in today’s society. SPOILERS.
The plot centers around two people that find each other through a dating/ hook
up app. Of course they have sex on the first night and quickly move in with one
another. They have their first huge fight and both end up cheating on one
another. After they discussed their affairs they chose to engage in an open
relationship akin to swinging. Eventually, they stop being transparent with one
another and break apart only to find out they really wanted each other all along
they were just scared to be completely honest with one another for fear of
rejection. In my experience this happen alot with couples. They are afraid to
be openly, almost radically honest, with one another for fear rejection. To me
this is a type of codependency that I am guilt of myself. What if we were
totally honest about our desires, dreams, and needs? What would change in the
relationship? True some individuals cannot handle or are ready for that type of
honesty because it means taking a closer look at themselves. I know when I held
the mirror to my inner self it was hard to face my flaws and what that meant
about me. I have come to terms with my dark passenger/ shadow self and embrace
her like a friend. My flaws, desires, and needs make me the person I am; they
make me whole. To deny that I have those and to hide them is a dis service not
only to myself, but to anyone I chose to love either friend, lover, or family. I
feel this particular movie shows the depths an individual needs to dive into
within themselves to find what they need and the importance of communicating it
to partners. This is just my opinion, please watch the movie for yourself and
form your own thoughts. 

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I specialize in love, sexual, and relationship positivity, as well as addiction counseling, for individuals, couples, and families. I have experience in working with adolescents, adults, couples, and families. I am receiving my PhD in clinical sexology from the International Institute of Clinical Sexology with concentrations in addiction and kink lifestyles. I received my master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy at Liberty University. I believe in a holistic and systematic approach to therapy and coaching. You can contact me at 678-964-4739 or to set up an appointment.